PLEASE, DON'T LEAVE ME

What’s best when faced with a difficult choice and your feelings are involved? What to do when you fall for a close friend but are unsure of what his/her feelings are? Would you put your own feelings on hold and wonder for months and months if it’s reciprocal for fear of losing the person?

A complex situation such as this one happens to a lot of people and more often than one would think. We all have faced the dilemma of experiencing strong feelings for a very close friend of undetermined sexual orientation; in my case however, it had a happy ending, but it involved some alcohol and me being blunt after a big long while of trying to interpret his signals and my own confusion -yes I was the one with the blurry sexuality-.

One of the things that really bug me is living a life in fear and the constant “what ifs”, I can’t cope with unresolved issues, but for some people the fear of loss or ruining something that seems perfect as it is, can be a solid valid argument for not even discussing it -also applies to coming out to family, friends and relatives-; so we play the situation by ear, tiptoe around it and most of the times, we settle.

Jim Rohn, an American motivational speaker once said “If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary“. I don’t think that settling is the best option, if you take the chance two outcomes are always possible: to experience something extraordinary you would be missing if you hadn’t been honest, or like you initially feared, ruining something that was perfect as it was because your feelings kept asking for closure. But isn’t that 50 % of factual happiness worth the risk?

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