PUT THE BLAME ON MAme...

Scapegoats have always been a necessary evil since the beginning of times. Adam blamed Eve, the French Marie Antoinette (who in my honest opinion just had crappy PR and was hated from the beginning) and there a numerous examples of wrongfully projected hate over the years over the wrong individual.

Gilda was the sexy minx who got between two good friends to end up in the arms of the man she shouldn’t have left to begin with, so naturally, the blame was also put on her. When bad things happen to people, they have the natural impulse of looking around, looking for someone to put the blame for all the evils in their lives and most of the time, it happens to be the most public, obvious choice.

SL is no different, communities usually revolve around a few symbolic public figures that people lean on, rely and trust and if it comes to it, put the blame on; same goes with friendships. How many times have any of us during the course of our second lives have lost friends for the dumbest of reasons? people friend and de-friend each other with the most disturbing ease and someone always gets blamed -never mind the past or the good moments we spent together, it’s all about proving I’m right and you’re wrong-, it’s all about blaming someone anyhow.

Let’s be reminded though that during a conflict, each person is partially to blame, everyone adds something to the drama equation, is all part of that we call human interaction; so getting on a moral high horse and pointing fingers is hardly productive or functional -just gives you that fake feeling of righteousness-

What drives people to irrational hate? to put the blame on close friends for all the evils in their lives? I was discussing this with a friend recently and in second life, this phenomena has a name “projected hate” i.e. you’re doing better than me, your hair is prettier, your friends are cooler and so on, ergo all that is going wrong on my side of the game must and should be your fault.

I am not saying that I am perfectly innocent of the drama that splashes my second life on occasion , hence bringing colour and depth to the whole experience, but I get this feeling that sometimes is gratuitous and fuelled by what I just mentioned above. I really don’t mind, Andre Gide a french Novelist said “It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not”

I’ll just go on doing my thing, minding my own business, trying to have fun around my loved ones and those who don’t like it… in Gilda’s famous words can, “put the blame on maME”

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