FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

It seems among really good gay friendships to be the most logical step, specially if there is sparkage or chemistry and sex has been proven to be satisfactory for both friends involved, but is it really a good idea? can friendship really not be affected by sex and its repercussions? because believe it or not, no matter how aloof or casual you pretend your sex encounters are, it always has consequences, specially if you are doing it with a close friend.

My father always said that people are like sheets of paper with paint daubs splattered on them; when engaging intercourse, both sheets of paper are put together and at the end, no matter how careful you have been, bits of paint from the other sheet always remain on the original.

About a year ago or so, I engaged what could only be defined -in second life- as a friends with benefits relationship. It was all very casual and not at all planned, and we found ourselves engaging intercourse repeatedly, since we were good friends and sex was, simply put, very pleasurable for the both of us. I believe it was what you could call as every man’s dream, casual sex with a person you loved on some level and with no strings attached whatsoever.

But like all things in life, people’s goal and plans for it, as well as their needs change. One day I found him making demands and blaming me for not meeting those -nor his expectations-. I was both offended and shocked to say the least, we were basically friends who were having occasional sex, and a relationship per-se had never been discussed, but he was acting as if I was expected to perform a role -and a series of things- to keep him happy. Doesn’t this negate the purpose of being friends with benefits? I’ll always be of the opinion that at some point, our mutual arrangement was no longer convenient for him, but he simply didn’t have the guts -and act like a friend- to tell it to my face.

I guess, we’ll never know… and for the record, friends with benefits will always have two possible outcomes, a relationship with your best friend, or losing your best friend, which was this latter, my case.

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