Capture Love

When I initially joined Second Life's "Capture Love" contest, my first intention was to show people that other types of love could be experienced on the platform, that do not gravitate towards sex or romance and that deserved to be showcased in public as well.

I never did expect to get the massive amount of positive feedback and affection from SL users of all kinds, originated from a simple picture, which I decided to share and comment, on something that is habitual for me, which is taking time to have coffee with my son every morning.

Nothing I do in second life would ever be possible without all of you, your support, comments and feedback on everything I do and decide to share. I am truly honored and humbled and day after day, small things such as this one prove to me that the choice of starting a blog was the right one.

Here's the Link to the article I was asked to write for having won the "Capture Love" contest with the story on how I became a gay parent in Second Life. Again my heartfelt thanks for having allowed me to share my story, and I leave you all with a quote from my Second Life Father Northstar: "'The Love that dare not speak its name' in this century is such a great affection of an elder for a younger man as there was between David and Jonathan, such as Plato made the very basis of his philosophy, and such as you find in the sonnets of Michelangelo and Shakespeare. It is that deep, spiritual affection that is as pure as it is perfect. It dictates and pervades great works of art like those of Shakespeare and Michelangelo, and those two letters of mine, such as they are. It is in this century misunderstood, so much misunderstood that it may be described as the "Love that dare not speak its name," and on account of it I am placed where I am now. It is beautiful, it is fine, it is the noblest form of affection. There is nothing unnatural about it. It is intellectual, and it repeatedly exists between an elder and a younger man, when the elder man has intellect, and the younger man has all the joy, hope and glamour of life before him. That it should be so the world does not understand. The world mocks at it and sometimes puts one in the pillory for it. "

Oscar Wilde


I love my two sons, and like that of any father my love is pure and simple and I am very proud of it


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Cuando me uní al concurso de Second Life "Capture Love", mi primera intención fué la de mostrar a las personas de que otros tipos de amor eran posibles en la plataforma, que no giran en torno al sexo ó el romance y que merecían ver la luz pública también.

Nunca esperé recibir el apoyo masivo y las muchas muestras de afecto por parte de muchos usuarios del second life, originados todos por una foto muy simple, la cual decidí compartir y comentar, de algo que hago de manera habitual y natural todos los días, que es tomar el café temprano con mi hijo cada mañana.

Nada de lo que hago en el Second life sería posible sin el apoyo continuado de todos ustedes, los comentarios y sugerencias en todo lo que hago o decido compartir. Me siento realmente honrado dia tras dia, y son pequeñas cosas como estas las que me prueban de que mi elección de hacer este blog no fué erronea.

He aqui el vinculo al articulo que me pidieron escribir por haber ganado el concurso "Capture Love" incluyendo la historia de como me convertí en padre en el Second Life. Una vez más muchísimas gracias  por haberme permitido compartir mi historia, y les dejo con una cita de my padre en el Second Life Northstar: "contest with the story on how I became a gay parent in Second Life. Again my heartfelt thanks for having allowed me to share my story, and I leave you all with a quote from my Second Life Father Northstar:“El amor que no osa decir su nombre, en ese siglo, es el amor de un hombre maduro y un hombre joven, como el que existía entre David y Jonathan, tal como aquel que Platón usó como verdadera base de su filosofía, y tal como se encuentra en los sonetos de Miguel Ángel y Shakespeare. Es un afecto honrado y espiritual, tan puro como perfecto. Inspira y colma grandes obras de arte, como las de Shakespeare y Miguel Ángel, y las dos cartas mías tal como son....En este siglo hay un concepto tan erróneo de él (del amor que no puede definir su nombre) y es por esa razón que estoy colocado aquí...”

Oscar Wilde


Amo a mis hijos, y mi amor es puro y simple cómo el de cualquier padre


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Burning Bridges

Often used as an expression to refer to a job or a relationship in your life you have no desire to ever go back to, it seemed fitting to  be used as a reference to the many changes thousands of users are experiencing in impotence as the TPV policy has been updated by Linden Labs.

One of the first things that will poof before our very eyes in the next couple of days will be the client tags; personally, I won't miss those much as it had no relevance to me what viewer was each person on, but the color tags is indeed something I will miss and that the Lindens should seriously consider implementing ASAP -am I the only one that hates that default pink?-

There are though, a few updates on Third party viewers policy that I do agree upon being updated and that is the offline / online statuses -if you have set yourself to appear offline to people, I don't see why there should be a way for some users to see your real online status-, I am a bit obsessed with privacy, so this and the alt scanners -on the last TOS update- is something I welcome seeing depart from our virtual lives.

Then there's the Phoenix/Firestorm bridge, that wonderful wearable tool that allows your inventory and textures as well as many other essentials to load on your viewer which will must likely go too -this will reduce lag too!-, so myself as many users wonder how will this affect our overall user experience in the non so distant future? The move here seems strategic, Linden Labs while publicly expressing their concern regarding users' privacy is striving to make all of our viewer experience similar, so it won't matter if you are on the official V3 or any third party one that has managed to make a somewhat more decent job -no viewer is perfect, no matter what they tell you-

I guess we will wait and see how things are handled by all people involved in this Viewer tug-of-war, but do remember that the one with the muscle here, is Linden Labs itself.

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Sexual Faux pas

All things in life, it being second life or real life have a certain protocol and acceptable social behavior when interacting with people under those situations, but is there an acceptable code and protocol when it comes to the intercourse? Is anything valid in order to achieve orgasm while having a good time?

Abandoning yourself is where most sexologists will agree with me, hence inducing a more pleasurable experience; good sex is basically based on getting intimate with another person and focusing but not really worrying about the task at hand, but there are some things that some might enjoy being added or happening during the act itself than others might not like so much.

I always either experiment -get a feel of the ground as we go, in figurative speech- and if it's a long term sexual partner, I do discuss later the things I have enjoyed -this usually during cuddling- and those that didn't quite do it for me. Here's a short list of the most abhorrent things that have happened to me or friends during sex.

1. Dirty talk that becomes rambling: When dirty talk is no longer kinky but a big long monologue that instead of exciting you produces the opposite effect. Learn to procure doses of this at appropriate times, all extremes are negative.

2. Silent sex: This is wrong, specially in second life where all you have is the avatar, voice and good emoting to get you in the right mood. Some people in real life tho do not enjoy the talk or comments of whats being done, but at least some moaning is always appreciated.

3. Dirty bits: If there is potential sex at hand, don't use the excuse that you were caught in the moment and forgot to clean properly, there is always, ALWAYS time for proper hygiene.

4. I came, I conquered, I'm done: There's nothing I particularly find more pleasurable than procuring my sexual partner pleasure by trying to discover -or doing things that have been done to me- what they like and making sure they have climaxed. There's nothing worse than doing it with a guy that is only worried about their own orgasm and once they do is game over -some log off in SL so all that's left is you and that poseball-, consider the other person and you will find your overall sexual experience better.

Sex, like all things in life only takes some involvement and common sense, but sometimes people shed that along with their clothes.

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Todas las cosas en la vida, ya sea esta en el second life o la vida real tienen un cierto protocolo y reglas sociales a seguir cuando interactuamos con personas en estas situaciones, pero ¿hay un código de comportamiento aceptable cuando nos referimos al sexo?¿Vale todo cuando se trata del sexo y nuestra misión es alcanzar el orgasmo?


Abandonarse a la situación es lo que la mayoría de sexólogos recomiendan, para inducir así una experiencia más placentera; el buen sexo es básicamente intimar con otra persona y concentrarse en lo que se hace, sin preocuparte demasiado en detalles específicos, pero hay algunas cosas que algunos disfrutan hacer o añadir que otros no encuentren del todo agradables.

Yo siempre suelo experimentar -tantear el terreno sobre la marcha- y si es una relacióna largo plazo, suelo discutir lo que me ha gustado y los que no -por lo general durante el abrazo y caricias posteriores- señalando especialmente aquellas cosas con las que preferiría no tratar. Aquí hay una pequeña lista de cosas que me han pasado a mí o a mis amigos durante el sexo, todas ellas dignas de reseñar y en mi opinión horrendas.

1. Cuando el lenguaje guarro es excesivo: Cuando ya no pone sino que se convierte en un monólogo absurdo y en lugar de ponerte produce el efecto contrario. Intenta dosificarlo ya que los extremos son malos.


2. Sexo siencioso: Es por concepto malo, especialmente en el second life cuando todo lo que tienes es el avatar, la voz ó incluso el "emoting" para ponerte en situación. Algunas personas en la vida real no disfrutan de la conversación o comentarios durante el sexo, pero por lo menos que la persona con la que estás gima un poco no está mal.


3. Los apéndices sucios: Si te encuentras con una situación en la que hay sexo potencial, no uses la excusa de que te atrapó el momento y no te dió tiempo, siempre, SIEMPRE hay tiempo para una higiene adecuada.


4. Me vine, conquisté, ya se acabó: No hay nada que me produzca más placer que asegurarme que mi pareja sexual selo está pasando bien intentando averiguar -o hacer cosas que me han hecho- los que les gusta y asegurarme de que alcancen el climax. No hay nada peor que montartelo con un tío al que solo le preocupa su propio orgasmo y una vez allí, se acabó el juego -algunos en second life se desconectan y te quedas solo con tu calentón-; intenta considerar a la otra persona y verás como el sexo mejora y resulta incluso más placentero.


El sexo, como todas las cosas en la vida involucran un poco de esfuerzo, sentido común y respeto, pero a veces parece que algunos se dejan todo eso junto con la ropa


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