Two

Something I learned very recently is that, true to my father's wise words, no man in an island at it takes at least two people to do practically anything fulfilling.

Of course there are some solitary activities that one can indulge on, but nothing done in isolation can satisfy any human being in the long run, we require human interaction, feedback and support, whether we are having fun or going through a difficult time in our lives.

Engagements and break-ups are - logically - something that requires two - unless you are a Mormon or one of those in SL that married more than one person -, I tried for a good number of weeks after my divorce to engage in what would be for me and my kids a clean and civil breakup with my ex, but no matter how well intended your wishes for a friendship past a relationship with your ex are, it will never be possible if your now ex is unwilling.

No, this won't be a post where I bash my ex-spouse, not only do I have more class than that, but I have also come to realise that I did try my best to handle what life had tossed us our way, and despite his wish to maybe work things out and rescue what little remained of our relationship, staying in a marriage or partnership that is not making you happy is pointless and is best to end it, even if you do come out looking like a dick.

For those of you who have managed to stay friends with any of your exes, congrats... I know I tried, but it takes two to tango.


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Legally Blonde

Yes, indeed I'm still alive and kicking, and this would be the part where you are all wondering what is it that I been up to that has prevented me from writing.

Among my many projects, designing and selling my creations in SL is one of my main ones; something that with the Men Stuff Fashion week and upcoming Spring line releases, has kept me from indulging in this.

as you can see I have undergone a radical makeover, basically because I felt it was time to both reboot and keep my look fresh, and given the positive feedback I have been getting because of it, I see that it was not a bad choice.

 My makeover however - and yes I decided to go back to blonde, as it was my haircolor for the longest time before platinum -, does come due to my divorce - in some cases needed - and despite it being one of the hardest things In have ever had to do, when you make the choice of ending a relationship you truly believed would be forever, it is not the fruit of an impulse, but a long meditated choice.

Apparently though, instead of having casual meaningless sex with the easiest, sluttiest ones in town - or in this case SL - your first impulse is to change your look, a new haircut, maybe a facelift too; this impulse made me wonder on why we jump to a makeover as our first resort to moving on.

Steven Spielberg once said that divorce changes you, it turns you into a child, helpless, lost and confused and most of the time, during those initial moments when you try and cope with your grief, a change of looks is needed, as it gives you a fresh start, a new outlook, a starting point to help you move on.

More of what I've learned from the experience is that much like your kids and personal possessions, it takes some time to decide who goes where and who keeps what, your friends also will take sides, depending on which side has the strongest pull - and yes, you are not short on surprises -

I'll count my blessings if I can at least remain civil and keep a solid friendship with my ex, not only because I feel it's what's best for us but also because we have a child together, he who holds no blame on what happened.

Take it from me, no matter how heart breaking and difficult the right choice might be, and in Mrs Doubtfire words "marriage is bliss but so can be divorce"


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