Psycho

As of late, with my RL being so busy and me spending so little time in second life, there haven't been that many reasons for me to write a blog post about something significant or which I feel needs to be shared -unless you care to hear about my children and how awesome they are for the millionth time-, so today I stumbled upon an article on the Huffington Post that I found absolutely brilliant and worth sharing; specially spot on for most dysfunctional second life relationships, which in consequence compelled me to sit and write about it.

"10 signs your man is a psychopath" laid out in front of me, clear signs of manipulation that you go through when in a relationship with one, but in most cases whilst blinded by love and devotion and a great number of factors, you brush them off with the excuse "I'm just being silly, he's a good man and he loves me"; in fact you are NOT being silly and you certainly deserve better.

I am by far and in no way perfect, but I believe I have found great balance in my current relationship with a man who like me, is not perfect -and whined about me forcing him to be in the picture for the article- but loves me for who I am, criticizes me when I need to hear it and is my greatest pillar when I need one and a good friend to my boys.

As I kept on reading through the article, red flags kept going off and I shook my head saying, why did I not see this then?, I was Love bombed so he could sweep me off my feet, seemed perfect and very much like me in every single possible way, was mysteriously and suddenly sick and got better overnight; the sex was amazing but at some point he could never find the time and would make it sound like I was sex obsessed and he simply was doing it "for me". As soon as I tried to pull away -the minute I worked up the nerve to actually do it- he kept trying to get me back, that is until Hiro came along, then there was simply no turning back.

The sad part is that this affects a larger group of people that one would think and most are completely unaware of having been on one at all, so do yourself a favor, read the article linked above and if you feel you have been or are the victim of a psycho, get some help starting here: Psychopath Free, where they offer information and support.

It really makes no difference if the relationship has been in RL or SL, the mental debris and after effects affects us all. If you feel someone is being victimized or going through something like this but are unaware, do them a favor and share this.

My story has a happy ending but this might not be the case for some out there, who realize what they are in for, and it is too late.

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Dead? or Alive?

I was really trying to avoid touching this topic, but after having seen what some people in second life do for "fun" I can't help but throw my two cents on the subject as I feel I have something to contribute on the subject. A friend of mine a few weeks back touched the subject of the "imaginary ill" in-world, but how about those who go to the lengths of staging their own "deaths"

It's not something as odd and twisted as one would think and it does happen quite often, but not many are as public about it as our last dead man walking did. Death is something not foreign to humans, it happens to us all but yet we all act surprised when it happens, we fight it with all our might but there's really no escaping it.

On my personal experience, my first husband inside the platform was sick and dying ever since I could remember, every time things got ugly Corbin would pull the sick card to have his way and we all humored him as we did not want to upset him and finish him off, but be as it may, and despite all of the tools second life offers you to get away with lying about your real life issues, the truth always shines showing our true colors.

I am really making an effort when it comes to fake illnesses and deaths, as on what would compel a person to undergo such a thing and the only conclusion I can come to is the fact that these individuals simply thirst and seek attention; so, let's try and get one idea across here... Second life is a product, a gaming platform but due to the fact that it is user created and can be sociologically immersive, it involves real people with real feelings, and those should not be toyed with, under any circumstances.

These are the moments I am grateful I am not really active in the SL gay Scene, because I did manage just this once to not be part of a psycho's delusional idea of a perfect second life; I can see him now thinking: "I don't think I'll ever be able to see my own funeral, so why don't I fake my own death and strut around'?"

Get a grip people, or better yet, seek professional help in RL, because pretending to be dead to toy with people's feelings, is just going too far, but that's just my opinion.

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