ASSume

Assume, as defined by Websters dictionary, is the action of taking something for granted or true; most of the time people in Second Life get into all sorts of troubles for interpreting the information they are given and making it an absolute truth by filling in the blanks.

But how effective is assuming when it comes to socializing? Can you deduct and discover the truth with random bits of information streamed into a logical chain of events? not likely, most of the time, the obvious is only obvious to you and you have simply put your own personal input into foreign data so it makes sense in your head.

You can assume your children are straight before they even start dating, but that doesn't mean they are or going to be; there are many places prone to assumptions in or SL and our daily lives that we have tiptoe carefully around, since turning half truths into the absolute truth can -most of the time- lead to disaster.

My father always said that assuming was basically thinking for others and that he had enough work doing all the thinking for himself, so he never bothered assuming "It's more practical to just wait and ask bluntly when you get the chance" he'd often say.

Remember, when you assume, you make an ass of you and me.

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The growth SPURT

Something I have always strived to achieve as a person, whether this is second life or real life -makes no difference to me, it is still me behind the keyboard- is to serve as an example by remaining true to myself and making sure that both my actions and words match, so I don't go contradicting myself.

Second life has had from its inception, a very unrealistic canon when it comes to height, but most people comply to it even tho noob avatars -at least the old ones- do come in realistic human sized standards; so it makes one wonder who started the titan trend of adults being 7 or 8 feet tall. When I log in and being a father of two, I make every possible effort to keep an open mind and to not judge anyone by what is THEIR CHOICE OF LOOKS, as long as it complies with TOS and they are certified as adults, you are free to roam any adult sim as you see fit -adults playing children have PG sims to reenact their childhood safely-; the thing about SIM owners though is that where some have very specific rules to the type of people they want around and the ones they don't, there are places newly famous and trafficked -for now, things do change in second life- that leave their rules unclear, but not unclear enough so they can grab onto them and use them whenever they see fit, hence benefiting a chosen few and bullying others, submitting them to unfair discrimination; this being the case of Spurts Beach, a somewhat popular place among gay male recently.

One of my good friends had the poor judgement of visiting this place this morning and got approached by one of their "lifeguards", who, and I quote: "and you were looking like 14 or 15 for me and ya know, also yur friend R***** says you are looking like 14" -he even asked for a second opinion wow!-, when I read his facebook status complaining about this, I decided to put this to the test and see for myself, so I got there made a snapshot of the rules -no specific height mentioned, just loosely thrown there "no child avis" to comply of course with TOS and avoid further issues with Linden Labs-; after having done this I proceeded to move there where the crowds and this very friendly lifeguard was protecting the virtue of the titans and overly muscular from the horrid menace that is, slightly shorter people. I was wearing my slightly shorter avatar -even way shorter than my friend I may add- and in good 30 minutes, not once I was approached by any staff to ask me to leave -guess I am not ejecting material-, after contacting the lifeguard who claimed he had not seen me -I spent good 15 minutes not 3 feet away from him- and getting bored with his prattle I decided to approach one of the owners who happened to be online.

Atlas Hammerer, while polite at all times kept contradicting himself with rules that him and the rest of the owners obviously agreed upon, but which are sly and unclear and do leave room in fact for double standards. At first he did not remember who my friend was but when I indicated he had frequented his beach for a good number of months without any previous issues, which was something I found odd, he suddenly remembered "I have noticed him myself"


Sorry people at Spurts, but me and a number of other people who choose to look a certain way, measure a certain height, while complying with TOS will be avoiding Spurts beach from now on -second life is very big and places come and go-. Discrimination is bad, no matter under what context or excuse... so are wytch hunts; the horrible thing here is that only a few not friends of whomever or not famous or influential enough, simply don't get asked to leave, no matter how short and childlike they look.

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Distance

Relationships are basically complicated, this when it is going somewhere and not just based on sex; once the initial fire of passion dies off, all you are left with is a nice solid friendship, that is if you have taken the time to get to know each other that well.

Real Life and Second life relationships are mostly about interaction of all kinds, hence making your bonds stronger, but more so second life ones which are mostly, long distance relationships and based on the platform, first and foremost.

So all of the interaction that you both have sticks to logging in and simulating real life, and most of the time it can get very close to reality; I've heard of people who have crossed the RL / SL line and have met when distance and time has made it possible. But when the usual interaction channels are severed, how do you deal with distance? do you patiently wait until it's all fixed or rush to move on? are you the type of person that believes that timing is also an ingredient when it comes to love?

I don't believe in fate or destiny, or love at first sight. Relationships take time, work and a clear compromise from both people involved for it to work; most things in life you can do on your own, eating, sleeping, travelling, but relationships, like sex and tango, involves -at least- two people for it to mean something, or else you end up doing all the work and looking funny, it does take two to tango, try doing it alone and you'll see what I mean.

Actions speak louder than words... keep that in mind.

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Las relaciones son basicamente bastante complejas, esto se refiere cuando progresan a algún lado y no sólo se basan en el sexo; una vez que la pasión inicial ha menguado, todo lo que te queda es una amistad solida, esto si te has tomado la molestia de conocer a la otra persona en profundidad.

Las relaciones, ya sean estas en el second life ó la vida real se basan en la interacción de todo tipo, haciendo que vuestros vínculos se estrechen, pero más incluso en el second life, donde las relaciones son todas a distancia y virtualizan la interación de pareja en el simulador.

Así que toda la interacción que ambos teneis se limita a conectarte y simular la vida, y muchas veces puede llegar a ser bastante intensa y real a la vida real; he oido historias de personas que han cruzado la linea del second life  y se han conocido cuando la distancia y el tiempo lo ha permitido. Pero cuando los canales usuales son rotos por cualquiera que sea la razón, ¿cómo te enfrentas a la distancia? ¿esperas pacientemente hasta que todo se arregle o sigues adelante con tu vida? ¿Eres el tipo de persona que cree que el tiempo perfecto es parte también del amor?

No creo en el destino, ni en el amor a primera vista. Las relaciones toman tiempo y trabajo además de un compromiso claro por ambas partes para que funcione; hay muchas cosas en la vida que puedes hacer a solas, comer, dormir, viajar, pero las relciones, como el sexo y el tango necesitan -al menos- dos personas para que tenga algún significado, ó acabas haciendo todo el trabajo tú solo ó haciendo el tonto, hacen falta dos para bailar un tango, intenta bailarlo sólo y sabrás a lo que me refiero.

Las acciones hablan más alto que las palabras, tenlo siempre presente...


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A Million Pennies

This blog being a reference of either trending topics and things happening in my life -this including my day to day ramblings which I am honored you take the time to read and share-, I felt I had to give my two cents on the JC Penny / Ellen Degeneres / One "million" moms failed attempt of boycott.

I firmly believe that equality, worldwide, will happen; it is unstoppable. Minorities never ask to be considered equals, they don't want to be like everybody else, they have their own identity and ways to see the world, they just want equal rights.

Ellen Degeneres, more specifically, like any other public figure has every right to represent whomever she so chooses and so does the company that decides to make her a spokesperson -that's basically their prerogative-
When people hide behind a "label" -or give others a label as an excuse to hate-, no matter under what context or situation, it's plainly and by concept wrong.

My Name is Spike Clémenceau-Silent and I am first and foremost a person, secondly a father of two -both of whom I try to teach right from wrong by giving a good example- and last but not least gay. My family -and the concept of families worldwide and in  society- is changing and evolving; I love my family, I like looking after them and making sure they are happy and safe and I am sure this same applies to all families out there, "conservative" or not.

Here's a word of advice to all haters out there, who feel they have every right to get on a moral high horse and look down on people: there's no absolute truth in life, such thing doesn't exist, live and let live... mind your own business as the LGTB has enough to worry about already; we serve as role models to our children and hate, no matter under what excuse is always wrong, I'd worry about that hate message you are teaching if I were you. If you on the other hand wish to show support, here's the right group to like on facebook

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Este blog, siendo siempre una referencia a tópicos actuales ó incluso cosas que ocurren en my vida -esto incluye mis desvaríos diarios que me honra que lean y compartan-, sentí que tenía que dar mi perspectiva sobre el boycott fallido hacia Ellen Degeneres / JC Penny / y el grupo one "million" moms en facebook


Creo firmemente que la igualdad, en todo el mundo, courrirá; es imposible de parar. La minorías nunca ha pedido ser considerados iguales, no desean ser como los demás, estos tienen su propia identidad y formas de ver el mundo, sólo desean igualdad de derechos.

Ellen Degeneres, más específicamente, cómo cualquier otra figura pública tiene todo el derecho de representar a quien le apetezca y también lo tiene la compañía que le hace su portavoz -es su elección después de todo-. Cuando las personas se esconden detrás de una etiqueta -o se la ponen a otros con la misión principal de socabar y odiar-, da igual bajo que concepto o situación, es simplemente y por concepto básico, muy malo.

Mi nombre es Spike Clémenceau-Silent y soy ante todo una persona, en segundo lugar padre de dos -ambos a los que intento enseñar la diferencia entre lo que está mal y lo que está bien- y por último pero no menos importante, gay. Mi familia -y el concepto de familias en todo el mundo y en la sociedad- está cambiando y evolucionando; amo a mi familia, me gusta cuidar de ellos y velar por su bienestar y felicidad y los mismo se aplica a todas las familias ahí fuera, ya sean "conservadoras" ó no.

He aquí un pequeño consejo para todos los que deciden odiar a otros, y que sienten tienen todo el derecho de montarse en su caballo de superioridad moral para mirar por encima del hombro a otros: no existe la verdad absoluta en la vida, tal cosa no existe, vive y deja vivir... ocupate de tus asuntos y dejad a la comunidad LGBT tranquila que ya tenemos bastante de lo que preocuparnos; servimos de modelos a seguir para nuestros hijos y el odio, da igual bajo que excusa, es malo. Yo me preocuparía en el mensaje de odio que le estoy inculcando a mis hijos si fuese tú. Y para aquellos que desean apoyar al grupo correcto, aqui está el vinculo

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