Beach Balls

What kind of things or behaviors are accepted as sexual or non sexual during a cam chat among good friends? Is it the conversation that leads to it? is it the showing of attributes? in my personal opinion, anything related to sexual anatomy is directly and logically linked to sex; this might be too basic and simple to some, but I am sorry, they are called sexual organs, for a good reason.

During a recent argument with whom is now my husband, we stumbled upon opposite views on this topic. To him among gay friends, sexual innuendos and casual chat that includes flirting do not necessarily lead to sex and the actual flirting that leads to intercourse does have very different coloring.

I am not one to take things literally, but to me there's flirting and there's flirting, if you are leading up a chat on Skype (to name a popular cam platform) to sex, with a friend who is not expecting sex out of you, you will carefully pick various topics that surrounds sex imagery to finish with a clear view of your attributes; that's not innocent, that's fishing for sex, but hey that's me.

All is fair in love and war, but do remember, no matter how clear and pure your intentions are, if it involves sex talk or the display of your genitalia, that is a chat aiming for sex, flirting or not.

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¿Qué tipo de cosas o comportamientos son aceptados como sexuales ó no durante una charla con cam entre dos buenos amigos? ¿Es acaso la conversación que conlleva a todo ello? ¿a lo mejor la muestra abierta de atributos? en mi opinión personal, cualquier cosa directamente relacionada con la anatomía sexual, está involucrada por logica simple al sexo; puede que esta postura sea demasiado básica y simple, pero lo siento, se les llama organos sexuales por una buena razón.


Durante una discusión reciente con el que es a dia de hoy mi marido, nos encontramos con puntos de vista opuestos en este tema. Para él, entre amigos gay, los inuendos sexuales y la charla casual que incluye el coqueteo no siempre lleva al sexo de manera inmediata y el coqueteo sexual tiene en realidad un color muy distinto.


No soy de los que se toma este tipo de cosas de manera literal, pero en mi humilde opinion, hay diferentes tipos de coqueteos. Si tienes intención de que una charla de skype (para nombrar una plataforma de cams popular) conlleve al sexo, con un amigo que no espera sexo, escogerás cuidadosamente tópicos que conlleven al mismo, acabando con un muy clara vista de tus atributos, y eso no es nada inocente, eso es ir buscando tema, pero hey, es mi punto de vista.


Todo vale en el amor y en la guerra, pero recuerda, no importa cuán claras y puras sean tus intenciones, si involucra una charla sexual ó yus genitales, esa charla va dirigida al sexo, con coqueteo ó sin él


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Phonography

A gratifying sexual experience varies from person to person, but most of the time is focused on enjoying yourself while giving pleasure to the other person, while adding small doses of experimenting.

This is when you are referring to the RL intercourse, where you have a wide array of censorial stimuli at your disposal, but what happens with SL based relationships or those long distance relying on Skype and other means of communication to get by? that's when getting creative comes handy.

I used to be of the opinion that adding voice to the sex experience in SL was for the lazy types, as you can get the same amount of results, or sometimes even more with the proper emotes at the appropriate times, that is until I tried what Britney referred to as "Phonography"

Voice does add an extra punch to the experience, as you can literally hear how everything you are doing affects the other person, including then an extra ingredient that brings you a step closer to realism. Remember than either it being Skype, phone, or SL, most of the sexual pleasure you experience is psychosomatic -meaning it is not really there, but you can make your brain believe it is- and like I have mentioned before, it involves two people -three or more if that's your kink-, so make it fun and dare to try.

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Una experiencia sexual gratificante varía de persona a persona, pero la mayoría de las veces está enfocada en disfrutar mientras provees de placer a la otra persona, mientras añades las dosis adecuadas de experimentación.

Esto es en lo que se refiere a el acto sexual en la vida real, donde tienes una amplia gama de estimulos sensoriales a tu disposición, pero ¿qué ocurre con las relaciones basadas en el second life o a larga distancia que hacen uso de herramientas como el Skype y otros medios de comunicación? ahí es cuando la creatividad viene bien.

Solía ser de la opinión de que hacer uso de la voz en el second life era para los holgazanes, ya que puedes obtener el mismo tipo de resultados, ó incluso más con las palabras adecuadas en el momento preciso, esto era hasta que probé lo que Britney en su día se refirió como "Fonografía"

La voz no sólo añade un ingrediente extra a la experiencia, ya que puedes oír como todo lo que haces afecta a la otra persona, incluyendo así un ingrediente extra que te llevá mas cerca del realismo. Recuerda que ya sea en el Skype, por telefono, ó en el SL, la mayoría de el placer sexual que experimentas es psicosomático -es decir que no está presente pero le haces creer a tu cerebro de que es real- y como ya he mencionado en otras ocasiones, el sexo involucra a dos personas -o tres ó mas si es tu rollo-, así que haz del sexo algo divertido y atrevete a probar cosas nuevas.


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STROKE MY... Ego

The Internet and social platforms such as second life, give one the opportunity to explore many things, but second life has that added option of building yourself an alter ego, a virtual persona with its own image, feelings, agenda and background story; it all depends on how invested you get on it.

We build our avatars to be the perfect image of that person we wish to be, we cannot be or we wish we will get to be or we used to be -this applies to SL twinks- and we tweak bits and pieces as we go along our second lives; something that also gets built up however is our ego, which I have come to learn for some people, needs to be stroked and pampered properly to get the desire effect, as if it were a penis.

Let's get a few things straight and get the message out there to the millions of second lifers, or social platform users with blogs, profiles, groups or whatever you want to call them. Keep it real, keep it simple, do things because you want to do them and have something to share with people, not to build up your sense of self importance or compensate for a somewhat socially challenged real life.

I joined second life and do most social networks for a simple reason, as of right now; I feel I have something to share, it gives me the chance to explore my talents and dabble on areas that would be impossible for me in real life or would take tremendous effort or a huge financial investment to get me somewhat started or to the point I am now in second life. If you need your ego stroked through appraisal or approval, you need therapy not the internet, so maybe getting a REAL social life would help you work on your issues.

I'll stick to having the one thing that needs stroking, stroked and I'll do that in the privacy of my bedroom with the hot guy I like.

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