Digital get down

For most of us, SL users and avid social platforms enthusiasts, the internet -and its growing ways of taking it with us everywhere- is the one way we relate to other people around us; forget the letters and phone calls -in fact cell phones are not really used as phones anymore, the calls are just one of those addons-, there are ways beyond imagining for us to find that special someone and distances are a thing of the past.

Long distance relationship are the one thing that populates the virtual platform where most of us have gone to looking for either, sex, an extra income or companionship and sometimes, if things go well with you and your significant other, you both decide to cross that thin SL/RL line and take it to the next step, it being skype, text messages or an actual meeting if you're both lucky enough to be within reasonable distance.

But if you're me, luck doesn't always happen to be present in your relationship equation and you have to make use of technology -while being creative- to do things that most couples take for granted; today was one of those days where I made use of it all, to have a semi-decent "date" with my husband.

Having recently moved to the area where I live now in RL, I have gotten into the habit of doing some exploring either by bus or train -whatever is cheapest at the time I decide to do so- when I'm not working, as it serves two purposes, it familiarizes me with my new surroundings and gives me something to do when I'm not busy doing SL things.

Today I decided to go visit a somewhat famous pier nearby and since I recently upgraded my phone, I got adventurous and tested the flexibility skype mobile offers, the outcome was a simple afternoon that was both magical and very romantic and despite the fact that I could not enjoy any actual physical proximity -like holding hands-, it really didn't matter, he was there with me... we had lunch, we had ice cream, walked along the streets checking out the shops on our way to the pier and even got lost a couple of times.

Is not only sex what skype has to offer, isn't that a shocker... live and learn -not that there is anything wrong with getting frisky on cam-, but there are many ways to enjoy a decent digital get down, if you get creative.

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Phonography

A gratifying sexual experience varies from person to person, but most of the time is focused on enjoying yourself while giving pleasure to the other person, while adding small doses of experimenting.

This is when you are referring to the RL intercourse, where you have a wide array of censorial stimuli at your disposal, but what happens with SL based relationships or those long distance relying on Skype and other means of communication to get by? that's when getting creative comes handy.

I used to be of the opinion that adding voice to the sex experience in SL was for the lazy types, as you can get the same amount of results, or sometimes even more with the proper emotes at the appropriate times, that is until I tried what Britney referred to as "Phonography"

Voice does add an extra punch to the experience, as you can literally hear how everything you are doing affects the other person, including then an extra ingredient that brings you a step closer to realism. Remember than either it being Skype, phone, or SL, most of the sexual pleasure you experience is psychosomatic -meaning it is not really there, but you can make your brain believe it is- and like I have mentioned before, it involves two people -three or more if that's your kink-, so make it fun and dare to try.

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Una experiencia sexual gratificante varía de persona a persona, pero la mayoría de las veces está enfocada en disfrutar mientras provees de placer a la otra persona, mientras añades las dosis adecuadas de experimentación.

Esto es en lo que se refiere a el acto sexual en la vida real, donde tienes una amplia gama de estimulos sensoriales a tu disposición, pero ¿qué ocurre con las relaciones basadas en el second life o a larga distancia que hacen uso de herramientas como el Skype y otros medios de comunicación? ahí es cuando la creatividad viene bien.

Solía ser de la opinión de que hacer uso de la voz en el second life era para los holgazanes, ya que puedes obtener el mismo tipo de resultados, ó incluso más con las palabras adecuadas en el momento preciso, esto era hasta que probé lo que Britney en su día se refirió como "Fonografía"

La voz no sólo añade un ingrediente extra a la experiencia, ya que puedes oír como todo lo que haces afecta a la otra persona, incluyendo así un ingrediente extra que te llevá mas cerca del realismo. Recuerda que ya sea en el Skype, por telefono, ó en el SL, la mayoría de el placer sexual que experimentas es psicosomático -es decir que no está presente pero le haces creer a tu cerebro de que es real- y como ya he mencionado en otras ocasiones, el sexo involucra a dos personas -o tres ó mas si es tu rollo-, así que haz del sexo algo divertido y atrevete a probar cosas nuevas.


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Love-shack... Let's Love-shack baby

It being Second Life or Real life, moving in together is always a big step that requires deep thought and reflection. It may sound fun to have that special someone within reach 24 / 7 -some may even see it as an all you can eat buffet of your hunky better half- but do remember that there will always need to be room for compromises when accommodating a person in your very own sanctum of privacy.

Is not all about the sex, even thought the first few weeks will be all about that -hence the term love-shack- running around naked and christening or defiling every place of the house with some one on one loving, but once it all cools off is all about "learning" to be together.

Learning to work your way around each other's routines and habits you were previously unaware of can be fun and complex, but the key word is "respect"; those things were there before, you just didn't know they existed and it is only your good disposition, love and understanding which will make the experience rewarding and worth the effort.

Always keep your expectations real or on the low side, the happily ever after concept only works in fairy tales and movies, not in real life; getting unreal expectations from it will only either make you miserable when they are not met or end it all very soon. What brought this love-shack rant on? well, my second life better half just moved in with me today, so I figured I'd share this news and my input on the whole thing with all of you

Remember what Raymond Hull once said "All marriages are happy, it's the living together afterwards what causes the trouble"


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POWER that SEXUAL APHRODISIAC

Power is something that is given to those who don't want it and most of the time refused to those who only look for it. In Plato's immortal words, "The measure of a man is what he does with power", there are many people in life who will go to any lengths in order to get some kind of power and second life is no different.

Sex play can be an exchange of power, the DOM top and the SUB bottom, giving and taking power principle but what happens when people use sex as a weapon to climb the social, laboral or any other type of power structure ladder? what to do when a person approaches you or anyone in your circle playing the innocent little creature and manages to climb its way up in a rather speedy fashion through orgasms?

There was a political figure and a very famous one for loving the ladies -I'll let you guess about that one- who said that he never slept with the same woman for too long as there was information that could be either: leaked, abused, mishandled or received when a man had just exited a powerful orgasm, as you do not think clearly, so it was best to save himself the grief of doing the clean up later.

I guess on some sense he was right, there are some things you simply do not mix; the responsibility of losing face to those who depend on you, due to having the wrong influence in the bedroom, being one of them.

STROKE MY... Ego

The Internet and social platforms such as second life, give one the opportunity to explore many things, but second life has that added option of building yourself an alter ego, a virtual persona with its own image, feelings, agenda and background story; it all depends on how invested you get on it.

We build our avatars to be the perfect image of that person we wish to be, we cannot be or we wish we will get to be or we used to be -this applies to SL twinks- and we tweak bits and pieces as we go along our second lives; something that also gets built up however is our ego, which I have come to learn for some people, needs to be stroked and pampered properly to get the desire effect, as if it were a penis.

Let's get a few things straight and get the message out there to the millions of second lifers, or social platform users with blogs, profiles, groups or whatever you want to call them. Keep it real, keep it simple, do things because you want to do them and have something to share with people, not to build up your sense of self importance or compensate for a somewhat socially challenged real life.

I joined second life and do most social networks for a simple reason, as of right now; I feel I have something to share, it gives me the chance to explore my talents and dabble on areas that would be impossible for me in real life or would take tremendous effort or a huge financial investment to get me somewhat started or to the point I am now in second life. If you need your ego stroked through appraisal or approval, you need therapy not the internet, so maybe getting a REAL social life would help you work on your issues.

I'll stick to having the one thing that needs stroking, stroked and I'll do that in the privacy of my bedroom with the hot guy I like.

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