That pussy doesn't spurt

Oh the joy of double standards... I just love that concept of do as I say but not as I do. Yes, it's about that time of the year where I go back once more to covering the topic of our dearest gay Mafia, none others than my friends at Spurts.

A few months back, I was forced to cover this very topic in a couple of articles that hit me on a personal level for many varied reasons, being now the father of 3 young adults who have chosen not to be huge and massive or over compensate in sizes to fit any standards, I felt I had grounds to speak out on behalf of all of those out there in SL who refuse to jump through the hoop of "adult sizes" being over 9 feet tall, while being discriminated or worse, segregated or openly accused of engaging age play, just because they are not overly muscular. -both articles can be found here: The growth Spurt & The Invisible Sizes-

Apparently, my good friends at Spurts -and I speak from my own personal experience and based on testimonials from other users, I am surely not making this up-, only apply their rules to those of their choosing -basically, depends on who you are friends with and so on. I've always thought that them and people doing such things in SL -and most importantly in the Gay community, which gets discriminated, bullied, segregated and rejected still to this day- are just wrong and ought to be stopped.

Now, what brings me back to this mini-mafia on a power trip -and get a grip guys, SL power only gets you so far-is the fact that they have now moved on from discriminating sizes while accusing innocent short adult avatars of being perverts -or worse, children- to gender discrimination. I truly don't mind gay sims being exclusive for men, there are also such places in RL and people don't seem to mind at all, what rubs me off the wrong way is that, if you are friends with the right people or have the right "name" you get to stay and rules are bent.

My father had a name for people like the ones running this sim, and many others out there creating a set of rules that only applied to those of their choosing and that is "Nepotism"

If you are going to have rules, make them general or don't have them at all, no one should be above the rules, they have been created for a reason and if they're broken by the masses fueling your traffic and paying for your sim tier with their business, don't come complaining when they break them, as you simply have no moral ground to stand on.

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Perspective

Reading a few posts from family and friends who have decided recently to follow in on the wonderful adventure which is blogging, I got slightly inspired by making a detailed yet entertaining -if possible- account of my SL story and how Spike came to be the avatar / person he is nowadays.

I opened my account after updating my PC following my RL birthday, I had heard all sorts of things about SL and since I had always been an avid online gamer, decided to give this one a shot. I did do some research on it first to really know what I was getting my hands on, despite the fact that I had dabbled with virtual worlds way back in 2001 and onwards on other grids.

The first few days I invested my time in what most gay noobs do when exploring SL, lots and lots of sex, until that eventually got old and I stopped using the account for a few days, seeing that apart from sex, no one ever offered me the help and guidance I was seeking to maximize my experience whilst in SL; when I decided to log back and give the whole thing another go, is when I met what would become many things for me, my teacher, my liege, my lover and soon to follow my husband, Corbin.

As the many men that had the pleasure or misfortune to bump into him, I was very unaware of the past and baggage he was carrying, but none of that mattered to me at the time, he was offering me exactly what I needed and was seeking, purpose, guidance, a group of friends and family -Yu among them- I still keep around, and very inadvertently he turned me into a hunting weapon that he would soon use to revitalize our limping vampire community.

I was fascinated by the whole bloodlines concept, I did love hunting and I prided myself to be really good at it, I knew what to say and when to say it in order to convince anyone to join us and it was not all that bad, I did meet many great friends that way and was even given 3 precious gifts a father can have, my sons. I often look back and ponder on my options when I decided to join our family and my only regret would be not having explored life as a "human" on the platform, as I do sometimes feel I missed out on many experiences.

Eventually things went south with Corbin, when my bond with Yu became so strong that no person could break and he saw this as a threat for his power stance and our "marriage", but that's a tale for another post. What are the things you didn't get to do while you were a noob in SL and wish you could go back to?

Perspective, usually gained by looking back before making your path ahead.

Thanks to Ellie for providing the inspiration to write this piece: http://elliecfrose.blogspot.co.uk/

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FRIENDS with CAPS

What is the meaning of friendship? What makes a person stand out from the rest and become your chosen refuge from drama, support or random fun?

One of my closest friends in RL said once that your friends are the family you choose; I happen to believe this to be true; but one of the things that have always surprised me is how, flimsy and fragile it seems to be for most people when it comes to SL.

People friend and defriend each other with an ease that simply can't be normal, but in my opinion the only thing that can break two true friends apart would be an offense so horrid to either party, that the trust and love on which such bond is formed is forever broken. I happen to be lucky enough to brag about having a "somewhat" solid SL family, formed by friends who have been around my SL since the very first day, these are my brothers and my sisters, people I can count with and that I know for sure would not betray me or use me, at least not knowingly.

I was given the good news today that one of my best friends and someone who I deem relevant and essential in my SL -and at times in my RL as well- gets to stay in the US and around us in SL for an undetermined period of time I hope will be for a big long while. He may ponder and wonder at times on how strongly I feel for him and how much I depend on him being around, as I am not the cuddliest bear of the block -not the most vocal about it either- but when it really matters, I know I got his back and he's got mine, no matter what

That my dear readers is true friendship, friends with CAPS, unconditional, unbreakable and only changed to evolve into something better.

So if you have a friend you can trust blindly, count your blessings. I got mine right there: http://yusushi.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/meaning-of-friendship.html
Love you B, glad you get to stay with us

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Issues and Tissues

Recent events have forced me to do a week-long silence to reflect about a thing or two when it comes to my public and private SL life and how it does indeed have collaterals I never expected, then again all of our actions do have consequences, whether you are a public figure or not, the difference lies in the fact that when you are indeed exposed to the public eye, your actions and its effects are just a whole lot louder.

I'll never make excuses or try to bend the truth about my actions past and present, if I am ever in the wrong I am always the first to admit it and even rush to fix things to the best of my ability, it takes after all -like my father used to say many times- a small man to do wrong and a big man to admit it and I do always try to be the bigger man when it comes to issues and SL drama that I have provoked, but something I will surely never do is add fire to someone's else's bonfire of issues -there's therapy in RL, something some users in SL seem to forget, it is there... make use of mental health care, now that you have the chance and stop logging in to compensate for whatever it is that you are lacking or needing help with-, SL is entertainment, something we "add" to our lives, hence the name, making it your first and topmost priority on whichever area, that's where you are in the wrong.

I know and accept now that due to the amount of exposure I have subjected my SL persona to, I will be the target and aim of many things, illogical  and unfounded hate being one of them.

And as the title of this article estates, there are Issues and there are tissues, grab a pack of those and if I ever wronged you in any way and want to be an adult about it instead of spewing your hate around, do IM me and meet me in-world and we'll have a chat.

Then again the comfort of social platforms for hateful speech and cyber-bullying is always a lot more comfortable bed to lie in.

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P.S: to avoid unwanted venom the comments on this article will be for the first time ever, moderated, even if actions do speak louder than words, we really want to keep this site clean don't we.

The Drama Lama

Being a faithful reflection of my SL happenings, I am forced yet again to cover this topic and funnily enough, without having done or said anything to cause it, at least this time. What makes a person in SL create, fuel or cause issues that will rub most people off the wrong way? I constantly ask myself thise very question when it comes to my friends I like to refer to as the "drama Lamas"

A drama lama is simply put, an attention seeker, whose only purpose in SL and other social platforms such as Facebook and twitter is to cause issues involving other, to direct attention to his misfortune or predicament while whining and batting of their eyelashes.

Get a grip people, Second life is a leisure based platform, true some of us do produce an extra income out of it and have a very complex family and social life that goes beyond our real one, which doesn't negate the fact that second life, whether we like it or not it's a gaming platform, user based and with user created content, but that doesn't give you the excuse to "toy" with people to quench your attention needs; after having suffered the unmentionable when it comes to my social interaction in SL for the past year and a half, being the victim of drama lamas and psychotic individuals whose only intention it's to profit from your hard earned efforts, I have come to the new life motto of enjoying myself while on SL, carefuly muting, ignoring or avoiding attention seekers and others psychos, all of this done with a smile and my best wishes.

If you feel my actions in the past have affected you negatively in some way, be a man about it and IM me or private message me on FB, arrange a meeting and talk to me like an adult, but stop trying to suck me in on situations I will simply not partake of if I have not caused them, I have enough to worry about as it is and better people and things to invest my time on, than to humor anyone's thirst for attention.

If you crave attention so badly, get naked, video it and post it on xtube, but leave me and my loved ones alone, I will mute, delete and report as I see fit when and if I feel my integrity and that of the ones I care is affected.

And to add more on the topic, do take time to read: http://yusushi.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/dealing-with-tantrums.html

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Check out my privates

One of the things I simply cannot understand or tolerate is double standards, they are hypocritical and have no logical base for existing -simply put, do as I say and not as I do principle-: it has come to my attention that this applies to governments, agencies and businesses worldwide when handling your information -which is yours and only yours to give- but please allow me to elaborate.

The other day I was sitting at home enjoying the peace and quiet of my day off when someone rang the bell, it was a friendly looking lady around her 50s who identified herself as coming on behalf of the council to gather information about residents for the registry of electors, I happen to live with two other people so naturally I explained that I was alone at home and the other people were not present at the time, what followed made me raise an eyebrow.

"Since I come from council" the woman continued and "it's only for the registry database, it would be fine for you to give me such information" to which I replied that what I was being asked to do was illegal and that she should come at a later time and speak to the people concerned in person. When meditating on this as the day progressed I was left wondering how many times Linden Labs has changed its TOS to ensure that our information is indeed private and ours to handle, but it is not in fact entirely private as the Labs itself has all of our tacit consent when we open an account and facilitate RL info to do with our precious privacy -our private parts as I like to call them- as they see fit -same goes to Facebook and many other social platforms out there-

Why is it then that some laws are more severely applied and safe guarded such as Piracy, Fraud -to name a few- because simply put, it involves money, so maybe we should start asking companies and governments out there money every time we are asked to give specific details about ourselves, then and maybe only then, our private parts would be treated with the respect they so deserve.

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Offensive

It is always a pleasure as a writer, to see how you inspire those around you to speak their minds and reflect with the written word, how they see the world around them and anything concerning SL: this is the case of my good friend Yu Exonar, who has recently partaken in the joys of blog writing.

His Blog "probably offensive" is a combination of his insight, recent events and alongside narrative to who he is. It promises to be a combo of wit and controversy -which is always a fun read-

His latest post "SL Most talented" covers many points which I have already mentioned in the past when it comes to performers and artists in SL, but he does this in a way where you can't help but chuckle and be amused on how little he cares about wording himself carefully.

http://yusushi.blogspot.co.uk/2012/09/sls-most-talented.html

A good read on a blog that promises to be the talk of the town for weeks and months to come.

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Venus

One of the things I have been wondering about recently, is the moderate fascination most well adjusted and average homosexuals have with strong female icons, what drives us to feel identified, pursue copying their strong character traits by making them our role models? Like Madonna's song said -and yes she would be one of the icons I mentioned- Greta Garbo and Monroe... Dietrich, the list goes on; these women were well advanced and pioneers and made a difference in the world around them, for better or worse.

Maybe that is it, I was wondering it could be simply what recent research has proven, and that is the fact that the male homosexual brain responds and interacts with the world around it more closely related to that of a woman that of the "normal" functioning parameter of our "straight" counterparts -there's no such thing as 100% straight in my opinion, but that's a theme for another article-; we want to be strong, we wish to make a difference, we desire the world around us to remember who we were, long after we are gone, all of this without us losing our glamour and glitter much like our Divas did back in the day.

Which brings me to second life, like most of my musings do and the legion of individuals who have chosen to play the gender bender or shyly walk on the threshold of femininity by being "femboys" -this is not mentioned in a judgmental tone-, the wonderful thing about second life as a platform is that it allows you to be whomever or whatever you want to be; if you wake up like Shania Twain one day and wish to tell the world that you truly "Fell like a woman!", there are means for you to do so.

Never judge a book by its cover, don't judge and you shall not be judged; this is one of the truths I base both my RL and my SL upon and it is the fact that, as a community we strive to gain equality as citizens and that we are able to live our lives peacefully and our sexuality as open as possible, but I have never understood why some sectors of our LGTB community judge, reject or point fingers at those also part of our discriminated group, whose only dream in life is to be queer and be proud of it

And I end with a quote from Bananarama, dedicated to all cross dressers, femboys, men playing women in SL and drag queens alike "I'm your Venus, I'm your Fire, your desire"

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