Choice

We are always presented with choices, everyday, each moment that passes and every decision we make, causes a slight turn in the path we follow making of this road we call life a winding one full of small possibilities that might change things for better or for worse.

I've always seen making a choice as diving into the sea or a lake, sometimes you are able to see the water you are plunging into, others you take a leap of faith or rely on hearsay to do it but in the end it is you the one who jumps into unknown waters.

Choosing and hence moving forward has always been driven by our need to seek and welcome change; you would think that with the many ups and downs and ongoing changes my life has always been through, I'd be one to happily welcome it, but my steady footing should never be confused with seeking change, in fact I am far from comfortable with it, but when I see that a situation around me has nothing else to offer me, I am more than happy to move onto better things, even if it means adventuring onto the unknown.

I chose 4 years ago to join SL and see what it had to offer, I and no other decided to move to the UK looking for better things, away from everything I knew as familiar and safe. I've chosen my friends and family in SL carefully and to this day, whenever it has been reciprocal, I have always welcomed anyone who has gone and come back with open arms, because that is what family is for after all, specially the one in SL which unlike in life, you choose.

If you are willing and able to take me into your life and make me a part of it, do it with everything I have to offer or don't do it at all, I am responsible for my own choices, past and future because when the time comes for me to move forward and take the plunge, I will do so with a steady pace and not even bat an eye.

It should be about that time when we all take responsibilities for things we do to ourselves and other people, instead of trying to hold others accountable for our own choices, that's like having an orgasm and then turning around and blaming the person next to you for it, no one forced you to strip and go through with it after all.

I make my own choices, I am responsible for my own actions and I will answer for them, eventually.

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Out with the old

And again, the time of the year when we make a quick review of everything we've done and accomplished -or failed to- has come upon us; interesting year as well, with all of the apocalyptic theories that have been tossed around, then again if you have been around as long as I have, the world has been ending ever since I can remember.

But apocalyptic theories aside, why do we have this impulse of looking back? some people may even add that what's done is done and let be bygones be bygones, but someone once said that without a clear reference of our past, we're bound to repeat it, over and over again, this being in RL or SL.

One thing I've learned through the years in SL and my interaction with all sorts of people, this being inside the clan -my immediate family-, with them who come and go and those who stay, or patrons that come to my sets and share moments with me and staff, is that with some, it pays off never to lose sight of those things past.

SL, as I have mentioned in previous articles, has the vantage point of allowing anyone to remain anonymous for a long period of time, or even still live several alternate lives, but our true selves always shine through, no matter how hard we try to hide it and something I have found very handy is to never let go of the past as a reference, because some people will always come back to your life time and time again under a different form and name, but that essence of who they are and were, still remains.

The past not always shapes our present but on some level defines our future, it is a great part of who we got to be and we would be different if our life experiences had changed even in the slightest; I am not saying we should hang on to our past, what we must however is keep it as a reference, learn from it and hopefully start the new year being better men and women, or at least making better choices from those we made and learned from in this long journey we call living; out with the old, in with the new...

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Fight

Life, this being SL or RL is all about fighting; we do wrong for the right reasons or right for the wrong reasons. As parents we sometimes have to make hard choices, risking our kids will hate us, because in the end, we know what's best for them, we've been there, we lived it and they fail to see that they haven't.

As a patriarch or leader of your community, not only you become a symbol, but you have to ensure that your choices are always the right ones and your actions, unflawed or you risk watching your loved ones fall in the hands of anarchy, chaos or worse nepotism.

All of this fighting leads only to one place, our pursuit and idea of perfect happiness, that which varies from person to person and is only a number of factors we think desirable for our idea of bliss; you fight the good fight to make it happen, but there are times when you just, give up, because simply you come to realize that no matter how ready you are to make change happen, some battles you're fighting alone.

So I've taken a few days off from my SL chores to ponder on the fight I've been fighting and where it's leading towards; the future of course as always is uncertain, no matter how carefully you've planned the future ahead, there are certain factors you can't predict.

Should we go on fighting the good fight even when the future ahead looks hopeless, dark and grim? giving up is not an option but there's always a hiatus, a pause to catch your breath and carry on with what you believe to be right for you and those around you, and of course there's always change, move on to better things.

Life after all is full of options, so keep fighting the good fight, do what's right for you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

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Fight!

The spirit of human nature, that which defines us as a superior race is the one of fighting our way through obstacles in our constant pursuit of happiness, or at least our idea of perfect happiness. Some crave power, others peace and quiet, some want a big family, other don't want children at all, happiness is like rainbows, it's slightly different for each person but it is yet the same in concept, but the thing that does not vary is the fighting spirit that makes us get up in the morning and continue trying, even when things get tough.

This is no different when it comes to SL, most people log in for fun, others because they have venues they may have invested money on and provides them with an extra source of income -this making of SL a side business of sorts-, but most of us simply log in and insist on doing so even when things get tough at times, because our second lives and everything that involves them represent that ideal world and persona we cannot be in real life for a number of reasons, so it being user created, we can shape our second lives and the path they take to our liking.

But isn't this also true when it comes to our real lives? aren't we also in the possibility of changing things around us if we don't like what we have? -new house, new country, new job, new husband...-, by simple concept it'd be easily pointed out that yes, we can produce change in our lives, it just happens to be easier in second life -or so it seems, this not being always the case-

What brought on this ranting?, my past week has been an interesting one, besides going through some major changes in real life, I have been the direct and indirect target of either drama aimed at me by other or either collaterally produced by actions I simply brought upon myself on a rather ironic yet functional cause and effect.

This has made me wonder and given me perspective on things we fight for every day; how do we tell apart those things that are worth going the extra mile and fighting for, from those that will simply bring pain and suffering to you and others in the process? What little I am lucky to have in RL and SL, I have fought for -it wasn't handed to me, no one wrapped it up with a bow on top and told me to go have fun- and these things I have fought for and keep fighting for ultimately fulfill that perfect idea of happiness I have for me and my loved ones.

And as previously stated on one of my Facebook statuses, I will not engage or entertain anyone's drama, if it doesn't directly affect me -that's not my fight, that's your fight!- and if you want attention, don't come to me asking for it, go make a naked xtube video. I'll keep on carefully picking my own battles and trying to do right by those who do matter, which is simply what life is all about.

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Welcome back

There are moments in your life, when people you hold dear and close to your heart will part from your side for a number of reasons, but the most painful and hardest to cope with is when a friend leaves influenced by what other people say.

My eldest son is a firm believer of paths, he always says that people have a life path they follow and must discover on their own and if it takes them away from you for a while but eventually brings them back, is all good and what's past is water under the bridge.

I just went through just that today; due to a number of reasons I lost a good friend a number of months back and how things ended between us both confused me and caused me pain, because I knew he was being misled. I am not exactly a harmless little puppy, but when I am wrong I know I am wrong and try my best to fix it.

Then today I was approached by him again during one of my sets and after engaging a light hearted chat, we decided to work out our issues and put the past behind us; there are some people in your life that deserve a second chance and that the wrongs done to you lose the weight that caused the division. Whether it is Second Life or Real Life, no matter how much you try and hide the truth, it will always come afloat, even if it takes a long time.

Guess Skylar is right and that there are paths that will always lead back home.

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The string with two ends

I have noticed that people in social platforms, this being second life or any other, have the habit of becoming friends with pretty much anyone. We exchange two words, and sometimes not even that and people get instantly friended and some even go to the extent of making a scene when they are removed because quite frankly, you two barely speak.

The friending protocol varies from person to person, my oldest son won't just go and friend anyone unless he gets to know them really well, which I can respect; I have come to the habit of being picky when adding friends to my list, but truth be told, sometimes if the person I am speaking to happens to have something in common with me, I'll go ahead and add them.

This wasn't always so, as a SL deejay, I felt that the more people I added to my list, the larger group of people I'd manage to get to the set, but experience shows you that this isn't always so and some "friends" will even jump on your IM to ask you not to mass TP them -this is how avatars move in SL by Landmarks or direct teleportation-; this is something that happens to me quite frequently and up until recently, I have respected people's wishes to be skipped from mass TPs, but then I today I got someone who not only requested to be skipped but added "if only we talked, but all I get are tps"

To that I have an answer, friendship is like a rope or a string... it has two ends... your end and mine, friendship is supposed to be reciprocal -the real one-, if not what's the point.

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Me ha dado cuenta de que en las plataformas sociales, ya sea esta el second life o cualquier otra, las personas desarrolan el hábito de hacerce amigos de cualquiera. Intercambiamos dos palabras, y a veces incluso menos y las personas se hacen tus amigos de la forma más casual e inmediata, habiendo algunos que te montan una escena cuando los eliminas de tu lista, porque no sólo no tenian nada en común, sino que nunca se hablaban.


El protocolo de amistad varía dependiendo de la persona, my hijo el mayor por ejemplo no se hace amigo de cualquiera sin haberlos conocido en profundidad antes, lo cual puedo respetar; yo he desarrollado el hábito de escoger con cuidado a quien agrego, pero sea dicha la verad, si hay veces en las que hablo brevemente con alguien y encuentro que tenemos cosas en común, los agrego sin más.

Esto no siempre fué así, como deejay en el second life, tenía la idea preconcebida de que mientras más personas agregase a mi lista, la mayor cantidad de personas lograría traer al set, pero la experiencia me ha demostrado que esto no ocurre así, y algunos "amigos" brincarán en los que les mandas un TP -así es como las personas se mueven en el second life, via teleportación o vínculos directos llamados "landmarks"-; esto es algo que me ocurre con cierta frecuencia y hasta hace poco he respetado el deseo de algunos de no ser enviados los TP, pero hoy me llegó alguien que no sólo me pidió que no lo hiciera con él, sino que además agregó: "si tan siquiera hablaramos, pero lo único que recibo son TPs"

Para esto tengo una respuesta, la amistad es como una cuerda con dos finales, el tuyo y el mío, la amistad debe de ser recíproca -la de verdad-, si no cual es el sentido.

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Serendipity

Serendipity means a "happy accident" or "pleasant surprise"; specifically, the accident of finding something good or useful without looking for it. We encounter situations such as this one, more often than we think, and give the difficulty to translate the word, it has been accepted by other languages as it is.; first coined by Horace Walpole on his Persian fairy tale "The Three Princes of Serendip" who throughout the tale, kept making accidental discoveries.


In the movie named after this word, the protagonists decide to rely on happy accidents to dictate the course of their future relationship-to-be, to make a point that maybe fate, destiny or life -even a higher power- wants them together.


Some people believe in destiny and fate, that life has a plan for us and that these random moments of serendipity guide us to the point where we are supposed to be; one of my co-workers in Gayworldsnews, personal friend and one I am happy to call part of my second life family, stumbled upon this candy heart by a mere act of serendipity, he had been munching on candy hearts without stopping to read the messages, and the one heart he stopped to read, was one with the letters FAB on it; it immediately dawned on him as a message from beyond from our dear Fabrice Snook, founder and owner of GWNs, whose dream and legacy we all have promised to carry on, a small reminder that we may headed in the right direction and that his legacy will live on.


Personally, I don't believe in destiny or fate, but I have to admit that there have been times, specially during my second life where I have faced random moments of serendipity which have brought me a lot of joy and have taken me to the point where I am now -specially with my son Skylar, an act of total serendipity-, so maybe Horace Walpole was right, and life is nothing but a complex net of serendipitous acts.


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Serendipity significa "accidente feliz" ó "agradable sorpresa"; específicamente, el encontrar algo útil o bueno de forma accidental. Nos enfrentamos a situaciones como esta, más a menudo de lo que nos imaginamos, y dado lo dificil de traducir la palabra, esta ha sido trasladada y aceptada por otros idiomas; creada originalmente por Horace Walpole en su cuento de hadas Persa "los tres principes de Serendip" los cuales durante la historia, se encontraban con estos accidentes felices.


En la película del mismo nombre, los protagonistas deciden de confiar en estos accidentes felices para dictar el curso de su fitura relación, para probar que el destino, o la vida -incluso un poder superior- los quiere juntos.


Algunas personas creen que en el destino, que la vida tiene un plan para nosotros y que estos momentos al azar nos guían a ese punto en el que se supone debemos estar; unos de mi compañeros en Gayworldsnews, amigo personla y uno de los que me enorgullece llamar parte de mi familia en el second life, se encontro de manera accidental con este corazon de caramelo por un simple acto de serendipity, ya que había estado comiendolos de la caja sin prestarle atención a los mensajes que ponían y justo aquel que da la vuelta para leer, leía "FAB", lo que el mismo interpretó como un mensaje del mismo Fabrice Snook, fundador de GWN, cuyo sueño y legado nos hemos prometido mantener con vida.


Yo no creo en el destino, pero he de admitir que han habido momentos, especialmente aquellos en mi second life en los que me he encontrado con momentos de serendipity los que me han traido gran felicidad y me han llevado al punto en el que estoy ahora -especialmente con my hijo Skylar, un acto de total serendipity-, así que a lo mejor Horace Walpole estaba en lo correcto, y la vida sólo es un entretejido de actos complejos de serendipity.



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Think...

Due to recent events, I have come to the conclusion that when it comes to some things, people don't really consider the after effects or collaterals of their choices when it comes to others, at least not until it's too late and fixing is next to impossible.

As we were growing up, something my father always insisted on teaching me and my siblings -specially when it came to me, I was very hard headed when it came to social protocols- , was to always think of the consequences of anything we'd decide on doing at any given time, or else we'd have no ground to complain if anything our friends did affected us directly or indirectly negatively.

Second life as a social platform and simulator, gives individuals many tools and resources to learn how to socialize properly, compensate for that which they are lacking in RL -something some ABUSE at times-, explore creative areas that have been negated to you outside the grid or let loose on some intense sexual fantasy or kink you may have and would be an impossibility for a number of reasons; I think however, that the main problem here is that a certain percentage of the total number of active and not so active users don't take second life too seriously... after all is only a game right?

Social networks, as previously discussed are based on fun, first and foremost; people log in to get away from their real life issues seeking refuge on social platforms, this being second life, Facebook or any other, but fun surely doesn't give anyone license to put anyone's happiness or well being at stake if that is what it takes, specially when it comes to close friends.

Friendship, relationships or partnerships, this being in real life, a social platform or even second life is like solving a math equation, you have to put some thought into it to get the right result.

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A causa de eventos recientes, he llegado a la conclusión de que cuando se refiere a algunas cosas, algunas personas no se detienen a pensar en los efectos posteriores ó colaterales que sus acciones tendrán en otros, al menos no hasta que es muy tarde y arreglar las cosas es casi imposible.


Según ibamos creciendo, algo en lo que mi padre insistía en inculcar a mí y a mis hermanos -especialmente a mí, siempre fuí un poco cabeza dura cuando se trataba de protocolos sociales-, era de siempre pensar en las consecuencias de cualquier cosa que decidieramos hacer en cualquier momento, ó de lo contrario no tendríamos base para quejarnos de nada que nuestros amigos hicieran y que nos afectara de manera negativa, ya fuese directa ó indirectamente.

El second life como plataforma social y simulador, da a las personas muchas herramientas y recursos para aprender a socializar de manera adecuada, compensar aquello que les falta en la vida real -algo que algunos ABUSAN a veces-, explorar areas creativas que han sido negadas ó están fuera de tu alcance, ó dar rienda suelta a algún fetiche sexual que bajo circunstancias normales es imposible de realizar; yo creo sin embargo, que el problema principal es que muchos usuarios no se toman el second life demasiado en serio, después de todo ¿es sólo un juego no?

Las plataformas sociales, como lo discutimos previamente están basadas en el concepto de la diversión, primero que nada; las personas se conectan para desconectar de la realidad buscando refugio en las plataformas sociales, ya sea esta el second life, Facebook o cualquier otra, pero la diversión no le dá a nadie licencia o permiso de sacrificar el bienestar ó felicidad de nadie, si es esto lo que hace falta para conseguirlo, especialmente cuando se trata de amigos cercanos.

La Amistad, las relaciones ó incluso las parejas, ya sea esta la vida real, una plataforma social ó incluso el second life es cómo resolver una ecuación matemática, tienes que ponerle algo de cabeza y pensar, para obtener el resultado adecuado.

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Where's my apple?

It being cheese, an apple or anything symbolic that we are used to having on a day to day basis, what happens when life takes your apples away? How do you cope with the sudden loss and move on? Do you find a substitute and move on or try and go without apples until the drought is over?

Life is about constant change, something I seem to be covering, experiencing and discussing a lot often recently, but it doesn't stop being true; how you deal with change and try to adjust to it, is where -in my opinion- true happiness lies. Change is not always positive however, or at least it may not seem like it, but it always leads to something better.

When we experience a loss during changing times we go through a series of stages: denial, panic, sorrow and acceptance; it all is normal and valid and how quickly we experience each varies from person to person. Personally I never linger much on panic as I deem it ineffectual and without purpose, so if you can skip it, even better.

Finding a substitute for your missing apples is like nicotine patches, may seem good on principle but sometimes it's preferable to adjust to change and learn to do without them. Remember Winston Churchill once said "There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction”


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Ya sea queso, una manzana ó cualquier cosa simbólica que acostumbramos tener en nuestro día a día, ¿qué ocurre cuando la vida te quita todas tus manzanas? ¿Cómo te enfrentas a la repentina perdida y sigues adelante con tú vida? ¿Encuentras a un substituto para tus manzanas ó aprendes a vivir sin ellas hasta que se acabe la escasez?

La vida es un cambio constante, algo que parece últimamente suelo cubrir, experimentar y discutir bastante a menudo, pero no deja de ser cierto; cómo te enfrentas a el cambio e intentas ajustarte a él, es dónde -en mi opinión- yace la verdadera felicidad. El cambio no es siempre positivo, ó puede no parecerlo, pero siempre lleva a algo mejor.

Cuando experimentamos una pérdida durante tiempos de cambio pasamos por una serie de niveles: nagación, pánico, pena y aceptación; es bastante normal y válido y cuánto nos pasamos en cada uno varía en cada persona. Personalmente yo nunca suelo pasarme demasiado tiempo entreteniendo el pánico, ya que lo encuentro poco efectivo y sin propósito real, así que si te lo puedes brincar, mejor que mejor.

Encontrar a un substituto para las manzanas que te faltan es como los parches de nicotina, parecen una buena opción en principio, pero siempre es preferible ajustarse al cambio aprendiendo a vivir sin ellos. Recuerda que Winston Churchill dijo una vez "No hay nada malo en el cambio, siempre que sea en la dirección correcta"

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Suck it up

There are moments in your life when something incredibly good stares you in the face, but comes like all good things, with a few conditions. There's no ultimate bliss or perfection in life, everything has flaws and a downside, coming to terms with those things that you may not entirely love in order to get that which you deem as perfect for you, that's where difficulty lies.

Where do you draw the line though? what bumps in the road are acceptable for you? Do you give some things more license in Second Life than in real life? Let us be reminded that virtual or not, sometimes second life can be even more real than life itself and just because it is not "flesh and blood" doesn't mean that some real life can't come and influence your second life, for the good or the bad.

But let us go back to the obstacles in the road, How do you draw the line on the things that to let slide and those that you find unacceptable? do you go by ethics or just follow your instincts? Is there a set of standards for second life and another completely different for real life?. My greatest reference when it comes to all of this is my Real Life best friend, who through me and my daily ramblings, has a clear and unbiased perception by now on how things work in both realities and how people do choose differently.

We are influenced by our surroundings and no matter how true and close to reality we want to be in second life, there are some choices we make that are unthinkable in real life. Our personality varies slightly, your story and that of your avatar are two different ones but staying true to yourself in the long pursuit for happiness, that's the tricky part, specially when faced with hard choices; sometimes all you got to do to get your hands on that yummy treat life is offering is suck it up...

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Hay momentos en tu vida en los que algo increíblemente bueno te mira a la cara, pero llega como todo lo bueno, con algunas condiciones. No hay felicidad definitiva o la perfección en la vida, todo tiene defectos y desventajas, llegar a un acuerdo con esas cosas que que no te gustan del todo el fin de obtener lo que consideras como perfecto para ti, es donde se encuentra la dificultad.

¿Dónde se traza la línea? ¿qué baches en el camino son aceptables ? ¿Le das a algunas de las cosas más licencia en Second Life que en la vida real? Vamos a recordar que virtual o no, a veces puede ser más real que la vida misma y sólo porque no es "de carne y hueso" no significa que algo de la vida real no pueda llegar a influir en tu Second Life para bien o mal.

Pero volvamos a los obstáculos en el camino, ¿Cómo se traza la línea en las cosas que dejas pasar y las que te parecen inaceptables? sigues tu ética o tus instintos? ¿Hay un conjunto de normas para Second Life y otra completamente diferente para la vida real?. Mi mayor referencia cuando se trata de todo esto es mi mejor amiga de la vida real, que a través de mí y de mis divagaciones diarias, tiene una percepción clara e imparcial a estas alturas de cómo funcionan las cosas en ambas realidades y cómo las personas eligen de manera diferente.

Estamos influenciados por nuestro entorno y no importa qué tan cierto y cercano a la realidad queremos ser en la vida de second life, hay algunas decisiones que tomamos que son impensables en la vida real. Nuestra personalidad varía un poco, tu historia y la de tu avatar son diferentes, pero mantenerse fiel a ti mismo en la búsqueda de la felicidad, esa es la parte difícil, especialmente cuando te enfrentas a decisiones difíciles, a veces todo lo que tienes que hacer para tener en tus manos ese dulce delicioso que la vida te ofrece es aguantarse y mamarla ...

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Evolution

One of the key and most valid points about Darwin's theory on evolution would be natural selection, the ability of any species to adapt to the changing world around them, something we as Sapiens have -doesn't seem to be apparent in some people but trust me, it IS there- that the species before us didn't and which ultimately caused their extinction.

I'd like to think I am the type of person that welcomes natural change, but I am a little jumpy when it comes to life surprising you, so my changes are mostly planned way ahead -something that my oldest son doesn't quite get or does "I don't like to plan" he says-; nevertheless, there are times when life around you will shift and evolve and you have no other choice but to tag along or be left behind.

New job, new partner, new house; change can be scary but life revolves around it and second life is no different. The thing about second life as a virtual life simulator is that change and time happen a lot faster, so you have very little time to adjust -at least for those seriously invested on it, there are some that stick to virtual sex which is also valid but won't get you too far past the orgasm-. The person that I am in second life doesn't differ much from he who I am in real life, but it has given me a chance to do things I would not be able to experience otherwise -parenting for example, with its ups and downs- and welcoming change while adjusting to it to my best of my ability has been a key point.

Anything that makes you grow as a person, good or bad is more than welcome; the fear of death follows from the fear of life, a man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time. Life can give me what it's got in store for me, I know I'll profit from it somehow.

“The key to change... is to let go of fear.” Rosanne Cash

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Uno de los puntos principales de más peso y validez en la teoria evolutiva de Darwin sería la de la selección natural, la abilidad de las especies en adaptarse al mundo que les rodea, algo que nosotros los Sapiens podemos hacer -no parece ser evidente en algunos, pero creeme PUEDEN- y que nuestras especies predecesoras no tenían y que por consiguiente causó su extición.

Me gustaría decir que soy el tipo de persona que acepta el cambio de manera natural, pero que la vida me sorprenda me suele causar un poco de ansiedad, así que la mayoría de los cambios que sufro so planificados con muchísima antelación -algo que mi hijo el mayor no termina de entender ó practica "no me gusta planificar" dice-; sin embargo hay momentos en los que la vida a tu alrededor cambiará y evolucionará y no tienes más elección que seguir el paso o que te dejen atrás.

Un nuevo trabajo, una nueva pareja, una nueva casa; el cambio puede resultar sobrecogedor pero la vida gira en torno a este y el Second Life no difiere mucho de este concepto. Lo curioso del second life es que como simulador virtual el cambio ocurre más de prisa, así que a veces tienes poco tiempo para ajustarte a él -los hay que se limitan al sexo virtual, algo que también es valido pero que no te llevará más allá del orgasmo-. La persona que soy en el Second life no dista mucho del quien soy en la vida real, pero me ha dado la oportunidad de hacer y experimentar cosas más allá de mi alcance en situaciones normales -ser padre por ejemplo, con sus más y con sus menos- y ajustarme al cambio ha sido un punto esencial en mi experiencia.

Todo lo que te hace crecer como persona, lo bueno y lo malo es más que bienvenido; el miedo a la muerte es causado por el miedo a la vida, un hombre que vive plenamente está preparado para morir en cualquier momento. La vida puede darme todo lo que tiene preparado para mí, sé que le sacaré provecho de alguna manera.


“El secreto del cambio... es dejar tus miedos.” Rosanne Cash

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TRUE COLORS...

No I'm not feeling patriotic or nostalgic about the 80s or Cindy Lauper, just had one of those days of speedy learning when referred to friendship, personal agendas and looking after your own interests while losing people that were close to you and who shared their time, family and free time to see you off to a good start, just for the benefit of being considered a good friend.


"All is fair in love and war" first said by John Lyly's 'Euphues' (1578), who simply mentioned in one of his theater plays that the moral rules applied to life did not, in these two situations and all you did was valid -means to an end, simply put- but is it really valid when it comes to friendship? Isn't it friend love ALSO a type of love?


Guess to some people friendship is merely functional -means to an end, read above-, no I don't mean to sound bitter, but even in virtual platforms such as second life, I find it incredible that you manage to see some people's true colors, when the possibilities of pretending to be anyone for long periods of time would prevent from showing -in theory-


My father always said that nothing stays secret in life for too long, so I guess he was right.


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No, no me estoy sintiendo patriotico ó nostalgico por los años ochenta ni Cindy Lauper, simplemente he tenido uno de esos días en lo que he recibido un entrenamiento avanzado en lo que se refiere a la amistad, las agendas personales y el busar servir tus propios intereses, mientras pierdes a personas que te eran fieles, que compartieron su tiempo, familia y tiempo libre para que tuvieras un buen comienzo durante una situación que te resultaba complicada, sólo por el beneficio de ser considerado un buen amigo.


"En el amor y en la guerra todo se vale" dicho por primera vez por John Lyly's "Euphues" (1578), el cual mencionó que las reglas morales de el día a día no son aplicadas en estas dos situaciones y todo lo que hacias para conseguir tu meta era lícito -el fín justifica los medios, para explicarlo de manera más simple-, pero ¿realmente es valido cuando se trata de la amistad? ¿no es esta TAMBIEN un tipo de amor?


Supongo que para algunas personas la amistad es meramente funcional -medios para un fin, leer arriba-, no es mi intención sonar ácido, pero me parece sorprendente como en plataformas como lo son el second life, donde las posibilidades de ser cualquier persona por largos períodos de tiempo son infinitas, y que por lógica prevendría de que tu naturaleza verdadera fuese mostrada -en teoría-


My padre siempre decía que nada permanece oculto por mucho tiempo, y supongo que tenía razón.


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Kiss and make up

Sometimes in life you are faced with choices, choosing is never easy and most of the time you want to believe that your choice has been the right one even if people you care about get hurt in the process; life sadly is full of choices on our constant pursuit of happiness.

In a virtual platform such as second life -I like to call it a simulator, because quite frankly it has never "felt" like a game to me- the people you surround with on a daily basis are what you would call your family, those you trust and look after their well being and they reciprocate; what makes it a whole lot different is that this family you pick -sometimes life puts you all together by a sequence of random happenings, much like happened with my parenting... it found me-

I have faced many hard decisions when it comes to my second life in 2011, but there was one that almost cost me a person who has been around me from the very first day, through thick and thin. Sometimes we like to pretend some things don't influence us and we can always move on unaffected  -or at least in my particular case-, but the fact is that pride is the enemy of will. Pride gets in the way of progress and healing.

I don't want to spend the rest of my life overlooking things or ignoring people that matter because I am too proud or sure of my choices, 80% of the time the best possible way to go about things is to kiss and make up.

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A veces en la vida tiener que hacer frente a ciertas elecciones, y escoger nunca es fácil y la mayoría de las veces quieres creer que tus elecciones han sido las correctas, incluso si al hacerlo, has causado daño ó dolor a aquellos a los que quieres; la vida tristemente está llena de estos momentos, en nuestra constante busqueda de la felicidad.

En una plataforma virtual como es el second life -siempre he querido considerarlo un simulador, porque francamente nunca se ha "sentido" como un juego desde mi perspectiva- la gente de la cual te rodeas a diario se convierte en tu familia, aquellos en los que confías y por cuyo bienestar velas y que también actuan de forma recíproca; lo que lo hace completamente distinto es que ha esta familia la escoges -a veces la vida pone en frente de tí estas elecciones, como me pasó a mi con la paternidad... me encontró-

Me he encontrado con elecciones difíciles cuando ha estado relacionado con mi second life durante el 2011, pero hay una persona que ha estado conmigo desde el principio, en lo bueno y en lo malo. A veces nos gusta fingir que hay cosas que no nos afectan -o al menos en my caso particular-, pero el hecho está en que el orgullo es el enemigo de la voluntad. El orgullo se interpone siempre en el camino del progreso y la sanación.

No quiero pasarme el resto de my vida ignorando cosas ó personas que realmente importan porque soy muy orgulloso ó seguro de mis elecciones, el 80% de las veces lo mejor es darse un beso y hacer las paces.


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